Projecting Insecurities at Others

When you become stressed or emotionally upset and lash out at others, it's important to understand what caused the anger outburst. Often, personal fears or insecurities get disguised as projections of blame toward someone else. Look at the patterns of anger or resentment in your life, either at particular people or others in general. Then examine your life from an outside of the box perspective. If you are mad at someone for babying her child too much or for spending too much money on unnecessary items, you need to first examine your personal aspects related to those life areas. Did you raise your own child in a way you regret? Or, are you spending excessive amounts of money on leisure activities or products? The most difficult thing in life may be to look inside yourself, discover your own faults and mistakes, and then actually admit them. Once you realize that you may be projecting your own fears and insecurities at others, especially ones you love, you can then start to evolve through a personal growth and development process.

Before I express any harsh feelings toward someone else, I take a deep breath. I slow down and remain in the present moment. My feelings are my own and if I am upset with someone, I communicate in a confident, assertive, and productive manner.