Conscious Engagement in Romance

Romantic love can elicit a range of emotions such as anticipation, joy, sorrow, heartache, passion, bliss, and fear. If you wish to sustain a healthy, committed romantic relationship, you have to consider where you are on your own journey in life. A healthy, evolving you plus a healthy, evolving partner equals a healthy, evolving relationship. Not all romantic relationships are meant to remain until death, but they all serve a purpose in at least one chapter of your life. Before you enter into a romantic partnership, examine your own sense of independence, life choices and patterns, financial stability, emotional and mental balance, and sense of contentment with life. Look at any patterns that you've repeated in past relationships and seek to understand the underlying message and lesson so that you can grow, develop, and improve. Consciously engaging in a love partnership means promoting a mind, body, heart, and soul connection. Set the intention to meet someone who resonates with you on all levels and be open to receiving an amazing experience.

I consciously participate in my romantic relationship. I love to connect with my partner on a holistic level. The amazing romantic person I attract is a life partner whom I can evolve alongside. We understand each other and connect physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Love Is the Answer

Love is a universally positive emotion that serves to transcend any illusion of fear in whatever form it may take. If you find it hard to extend loving feelings to those who have hurt you in the past, start by showing yourself love. Mentally, you can infuse your thoughts with love by transforming self-defeating patterns and words into empowering intentions and affirmations. When you have an unhealthy or non-productive thought about yourself, take a deep breath. Cancel out the effects of it by declaring, "Cancel, clear, delete," and re-word the statement from a place of self-love. If you constantly think, "I'm sick of my big thighs!" You can rephrase and affirm, "My body is the temple of my soul. It is sacred and I vow to respect it with love and kindness." Closing your eyes and breathing while affirming something positive and healthy can help you remain in the moment. Visualize loving, pure energy flowing throughout your entire being and into every cell. The mental-emotional aspect of change can be the hardest. Explore emotional issues from your family of origin or past relationships in which your needs were unmet. Perhaps your father mistreated you or your ex-girlfriend verbally abused you. Before physical change can endure, the underlying mental, emotional, and spiritual concerns have to be dealt with and handled healthily. Improved thoughts are only one aspect of change. Believing in yourself and believing you deserve good and deserve to be loved is integral for creating authentic and solid change.

I love me and all that I encompass. Joy, peace, bliss, and love radiate from all aspects of my being. My mind, body, heart, and soul exude love for myself, my friends and family, my community, and the world. Love is the key and answer to healing me and healing the world.

Co-Dependency on Others

When you are living in an authentic reality manifested from your own feelings, thoughts, desires, and beliefs, you are less likely to be or become co-dependent on someone else's attitudes or traits. Co-dependency weakens individualism, originality, and creative potential. Being co-dependent, especially on those with addictive tendencies, is usually a learned behavior that can be passive-aggressive in nature. In the clinical sense, co-dependency can be seen as an addiction problem that has to be dealt with psychologically. In day-to-day events, you can examine if you are living, thinking, feeling, and believing from your own consciousness and heart's truest desires. Or, are you basing your reality on someone else's fluctuations in emotions, actions, and relationships? Detaching and cutting literal and metaphoric cords to another person in a co-dependent relationship can help you feel liberated and free to finally live your own life authentically.

I am true to my own needs, desires, values, and beliefs. I form healthy relationships with others and clear boundaries are set. I am free to express my own beliefs, individual characteristics, and interests. I respect other people's paths and detach compassionately.

Learning to Be Non-Judgmental

While living a human existence you are in a position to make decisions based on what you feel is right or best for you and your family. In doing so, you often have to examine the thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and character traits of others' and the situations they present. Sometimes you can get caught up in feeling what's right for you is also right for someone else. If you make a judgment on another you may tend to belittle or impose your opinion on that person or his or her experiences. In order to maintain your power and confidence without hurting someone else's feelings, you can choose a position of discernment and nonjudgment instead. Discernment allows you to think and feel from a sense of esteem, courage, and self-care so that you can maintain your decision and boundaries confidently without passing judgment on someone else's choices. You can simply declare, "I prefer things to be done this way as I feel it is the best decision for me and my loved ones."



I choose from a place of confidence and discernment, not judgment. I only have control of my thoughts, feelings, actions, and relationships. I allow others to honor their own paths without passing judgment on them, but it doesn't mean I have to agree or side with them also.